Hands up I’m new here!
But I’m trying to work out how there is a BAME subcategory here but not an LGBTQ+ subcategory?
As an “older gay” I’m more than glad that society has done a great deal of catching up and that many things don’t have the disparities that they did. But there are just some things that are “different” from the heteronormative for those of us waving rainbow colours.
- As a Gay Man caring for his husband there’s not much surprising for me about changing his sheath catheter; but I was given advice as though I were a 70 spinster lady that had never encountered a penis before.
- I’m also continuously accused/dismissed as the carees SON because of a 10 year age difference; whereas I’m pretty damned sure that if I was female it wouldn’t have been suggested I was his daughter!!
I’m writing this as a cis white middle class male with all the privilege that attains me, I am certain that there are others far more marginalised that suffer some similar and markedly different indignities; but as queer folk that have grown up before these current societal changes occurred we very often have a slightly different worldview caused by our need to create rule sets of our own. It would be nice, in what is intended to be a safe space for carers, if we could have that additionally safe space to share amongst peers some parts of the navigation that are more specific to us gays and theys.
I’d welcome EVERYBODY’S thoughts
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