Hi,
For some background, I’m 23, still living at home and the only daughter still home.
New here and struggling with guilt and resentment a small bit. We’ve always lived with my Nan due to my Mom not wanting her to be alone after loosing my Grandad - So Nan is more of a Mom than anything.
5/6 years ago, Nan was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia and Alzheimers. Things were going “ok” until around a year and a half ago and there has been a steady change in her since.
Nan knows who I am mostly, and generally is still “there” in that sense - however she really struggles elsewhere. She doesn’t require complete personal care but we have started assisting her with the shower and i suppose as the only daughter left home this does sometimes fall to me. I really don’t mind this, I would do anything for her.
However, due to just as a family struggling a bit, my nan has spent a week with my aunt. Me and mom have visited her for this weekend to then bring her home with us. I feel like I’m having some resentment, I can’t really pinpoint why but I’m really dreading bringing her home and coping with her being back. I’m Cabin crew and love travelling, and have dreams of moving abroad, but I also can’t dream of leaving anytime soon.
I feel awful sometimes thinking about what it would be like if we weren’t in this position. I don’t want to wish the time I have with her away, but I’m struggling a bit at the moment.
Sorry this has turned into a rant but I think I just needed to get this out of my system, I don’t want to burden my mum with how I feel about it when she’s the main carer for my Nan and she has no choice in it.
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