My husband has metastatic lung cancer with underlying copd. He is now on the palliative care pathway, at home with me . We still share a bed which is lovely in terms of emotional closeness, however his chest congestion keeps me awake. He no longer attempts to clear his chest with a good cough, and gets irritated if i prompt him to do so, says theres no point, although if he does have a good cough it will stay clear for maybe 30 minutes .
I find myself just lying awake listening to him apparently drowning, its frightening , tiring, and breaking my heart. Hes already on a whole load of medication including things to thin the mucus etc, and propped up as best we can in the bed.
This issue doesnt seem to bother him, i do feel a bit selfish but im so tired and upset. I suspect i just have to accept it, i dont want to spend our last time together squabbling about it.
Any useful thoughts? If i cant change the situation how can think differently about it?
3 posts - 2 participants