Hello all
My mother was admitted into hospital in sept 2024 following a fall which she suffered a fractured skull and a bleed on the brain. After a stint in a neuro rehab unit she has been deemed ‘medically fit for discharge’ and after having best interest meeting including SS and hospital team , I disagreed with . I called for a second best interest meeting as her confusion is off the scale . There is no sense to her conversations , she’s wandering in the night in the unit , taking tumbles (these are only things I’ve found out about during the meetings … no staff have rang me to inform me )
My mother lives with me , is widowed and there are no other family members around . The hospital OT have done 2 home visits with her … one for an hour where I sat and watched in my car on the drive as they unlocked both front doors for her , and one home visit for 20 minutes when , to their complete shock, I was sat in waiting for . I don’t think this gives a true indication for the abilities of my mums independence .
They have now decided on reablement care 3 times a day . I am worried to death as I work full time and my dog also lives at the property . My mother is expected to ‘shut the dog in the other room’ while reablement carers visit .
I suppose what I’m trying to ask is has anyone been in this situation ? I’m her next of kin , no poa , and her only child . I am being asked to take a step back from caring … as I expressed I will be doing, yet on the other hand I’ve been called an ‘unpaid carer’ by one of the hospital team! I expect to be doing part of the caring, that is a given , but I work 40 hours a week with no option to cut my hours .
My mother has been deemed to have no capacity , no one has visited the house to assess it for danger / suitability (in my opinion there are a few dangers , including a huge stair case and steps into the back garden)
I’m at my wits end
Thank you all fo reading x
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